when you finally start seeing someone who’s nice/smart/interested in you but the sex is bad
I feel like trigger-warnings on tumblr are getting really fucking out of hand. Like I get them for things like rape and violence but I’ve seen trigger warnings for romance and going to the gym on my dashboard and that seems so dumb and privileged to me?? Like, you’re going to have to see people working out or holding hands if you leave the house, it makes sense that that’s gonna be on the internet too. A break up or being insecure about your weight is a normal thing you’re going to have to deal with and you can’t expect the world to cater to you. You’re not a survivor or victim.
I’ve been hit by a car before and walking down the street during rush hour scares the shit out of me at times but I can’t trigger warning cars out of my life.
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The tl;dr version of what I’m about to say goes thusly: Your definition of “feminist” seems slightly misguided, and you’ve made some rather heavy generalized statements.
Now that you’ve seen that, please do read the actual thing, if for nothing else than the fact that I put a good deal of thought into it.
You are a human being and are completely entitled to your own opinion, however, I would like to touch on a few things:
Number one: You say you ‘love men’, but that actually has little to nothing to do with feminism. Correct me if I’m wrong, but you seem to be implying that feminism is some manner of agenda promoting the superiority of women over men, but the thing is that it is the belief that women should hold equal rights. Now, if you do indeed believe you don’t deserve equal rights, it would come as a bit of a shock to me, but it wouldn’t be the first time in history that this has happened, so I suppose I can leave that alone.
Next, there’s the statement that men are ‘way nicer and less dramatic than most women’. Well, getting literal for a second, that is literally impossible for you to know. As of the current year of 2014, there are approximately 7 billion people on the planet, and we’re all different in the way we carry ourselves, due to a multitude of factors. Simply put, your experience with feminists could be wildly different from the next person’s experience. Getting into that for a second, during my time, I’ve found the people who have been the most rude to me — and even outwardly hostile — were men. Once again, we are different people from different places, so our lives take different courses due to different surroundings.
Now, la pièce de résistance. You continued your statement about levels of drama and nice behavior relative to men and women with ‘ESPECIALLY feminists.’ This is what is known as a generalizing statement, or in other words, a stereotype. Now, I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt and say that that last statement comes at least from prior experience, and not the typical media representation of what a feminist supposedly is, which would be known as a Straw Feminist. Now, all groups have their extreme members (just take a look at Christianity), and extreme members tend to get more spotlight, which then makes the rest of the completely normal and balanced members look bad. Remember, stereotypes are not always true; and by the way, you do realize that a feminist is not automatically a woman, correct? I ask this, because the phrasing of your letter makes it sound as though you believe otherwise; I myself am a male, but I am also a feminist, as I believe in equal rights for women (Well, I believe in equal rights for all, but that is known as egalitarianism, and we’re talking about a subset of said subject right now).
Thank you for your time, and have a nice day.
This post was 100% satirical but I appreciate your time and effort in responding